Problems caused by wife’s illness

 

My brother married a woman who suffers from retinal atrophy, and he did not know anything about her sickness until two months ago. All he knew was that her vision was weak, and he got married to her. Now he is wondering whether he should separate from her because he feels that she will not be able to raise his children properly if she has children.


 He is always arguing with her mother because she speaks badly to him and he thinks that she bewitched him to make him marry her daughter. Now he cannot control his anger most of the time and he beats his wife, and he insults her in horrible terms. I hope you can suggest what is best for them.

Praise be to Allaah.
 

 

What you have mentioned about her suffering from retinal
atrophy is not one of the faults which the fuqaha’ have stated give the
husband the choice of annulling the marriage. But some scholars, such as
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, and Ibn al-Qayyim – and Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
who regarded it as being the correct view – narrated that every fault which
puts the other spouse off, so that the purposes of marriage, namely
compassion and love, cannot be achieved, mean that the spouse has the choice
of annulling the marriage. (Zaad al-Ma’aad, 5/163) 

Based on this, the choice of annulment is given in every case
where there is a fault that affects the purposes of marriage, namely love,
intimacy, bearing children, etc. 

But your brother came to know of this fault after that, and
he did things which indicate that he accepted that, namely continuing to be
intimate with her and not hastening to annul the marriage. According to the
fuqaha’ this indicates that he accepts it, and that he does not have the
right to annul the marriage. 

But as you know, divorce is the man’s right and he may
divorce his wife if he thinks that he cannot live a good life with her and
that he cannot feel love for her and feel at ease with her, which is the
basis of marriage. 

What we advise in such situations is to be patient with this
wife and try to solve the problem. If her mother is the main reason for the
problems, then it is better to keep a distance from her and to live in
separate accommodation. If your brother lives in the same house as her or
nearby, then it is sufficient to keep in touch by phone and pay brief
visits, etc. If the wife’s bad attitude is the reason for the problem, then
your brother should check himself and how he treats his wife, for the way he
treats her, beating her and calling her names, may be the reason for her bad
attitude. He should seek the help of people who have experience in dealing
with such problems, and try different ways of finding a solution to each
problem. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“If you dislike them, it
may be that you dislike a thing and Allaah brings through it a great deal of
good”

[al-Nisa’ 4:19] 

If it is too much for him and he finds that there is no way to solve the problem or to live peacefully with his wife, then there is no sin in divorcing her; in this case she is entitled to the mahr because the marriage has been consummated. And Allaah knows best.