Friday, April 1, 2011

Tony Curtis worst father in the world? Children sue for a share of his £37million fortune

 

To his millions of fans he was the last of the great matinee idols, the most handsome of all Hollywood stars and a man whose incredible sexual career encompassed a fling with Marilyn Monroe and a period of taking showgirls ‘two a day’ like vitamin pills.

But to his family, life with Tony Curtis — who had six children and six wives — was a more fraught affair. His actress daughter Jamie Lee Curtis has declared numerous times that he ‘wasn’t a father’ to her, and he admitted candidly that he had been a lousy dad.

Now, six months after his death, this assessment comes into sharp focus as it emerges that Curtis, star of film classics such as Some Like It Hot and Spartacus, has not left any of his children a solitary cent of his fortune — estimated by some to be worth as much as $60 million (around £37 million).

In fact, the fallout over his will has been such that I can reveal that his eldest child, Kelly, has taken legal action to challenge it — although this has so far failed.

I am also told that a second daughter, Alexandra, is contemplating further legal action. She has hired a lawyer to look into questioning the last will and testament, which was written just five months before his death last September.

It looks likely that the two half-sisters will now join forces and appeal. What seems to be stirring up the family is that Tony Curtis always said that there would be money for his children and grandchildren — and indeed they believe there were several prior wills drawn up in their favour.

However, his latest document explicitly — and extraordinarily — cuts them out completely. It reads: ‘I acknowledge the existence of my children . . . and have intentionally and with full knowledge chosen not to provide for them in this last will and testament.’

Legal action: Curtis poses with his daughters Alexandria and Allegra during 2009. Alexandria is seeking advice over the distribution of the will while Allegra has claimed she is a victim of her father's fame

 

Legal action: Curtis poses with his daughters Alexandria and Allegra during 2009. Alexandria is seeking advice over the distribution of the will while Allegra has claimed she is a victim of her father's fame

Instead his sixth wife, a blowsy, 6ft former lingerie model named Jill Vandenberg gets the lot.

As you might expect, this is not popular with the children. 

His will decrees that the fortune is left to a trust, which is to be administered by Jill as his ‘personal representative’. She has ‘absolute discretion’ over the money, specifically including all of his property portfolio — including homes in Hollywood, Nevada and Hawaii — which she can sell should she want to.

‘Everything the children should have, Jill has,’ says Christine Kaufmann, the German starlet who was Curtis’s second wife and mother of daughters Alexandra and Allegra. 

‘I do believe that deep down inside he was a nice Jewish father, and you know that nice Jewish fathers do not disinherit their children,’ Christine told me last week. ‘Tony was on strong painkillers at the end, and they make you really stoned.’

She claims that Curtis loved his children deeply, as they did him, despite his failings as a father. She also says there had been no falling out that explains their omission from the will. Kaufman suspects that any money Vandenberg inherited is being spent on the horse sanctuary which she runs in Sandy Valley, Nevada.

Happier times: Tony Curtis and first wife Janet Leigh pose with their daughters Kelly and Jamie Lee

 

Happier times: Tony Curtis and first wife Janet Leigh pose with their daughters Kelly and Jamie Lee

‘Jill has lots of three- legged horses that she has to take care of which are very expensive,’ she says.

Feelings among the family have now reached an all-time low. One of Curtis’s sons, Ben, 37, is said to feel so bitter that he even refused to attend his father’s funeral last October. B

en’s mother Leslie, Curtis’s third wife, says that he ‘loved his father very much’ but found it a ‘poignant and difficult time’ because of the death of his brother, Nicholas, who succumbed to a heroin overdose in 1994.

Meanwhile Allegra, the black sheep among the children, who posed for Playboy in her youth, has recently written a book describing her father as a drug-addicted ‘demon’, and bemoaning the fact that he never gave her a chance to be his daughter.

Curtis picks up his son Nicholas, who succumbed to a heroin overdose during 1994

 

Curtis picks up his son Nicholas, who succumbed to a heroin overdose during 1994

‘My father was a victim of his fame, and I am the victim of my father, the global star. I got to learn about the dark side of the spotlight,’ she said. ‘My life with him was always unstable.’ 

So far the tome has only been published in Germany. But Allegra, Curtis’ fourth daughter, contacted me last week from Majorca where she lives to say that, despite the problems, she always continued to love her father.

Her feelings towards Jill Vandenberg, however, are ‘not the kindest’. Actress Jamie Lee Curtis, who gave a moving address when her father was laid to rest, has also recently spoken of Tony’s failings as a father — claiming there was ‘no bond’ at all between them. 

But Jamie Lee, Curtis’s second daughter, by Janet Leigh, has reportedly decided that it would be futile to sue because she thinks her stepmother may have already frittered away the fortune. 

Jamie Lee’s publicist Heidi Schaeffer simply said sternly last month: ‘No one should be speculating on Jamie’s reasons for not being involved in the lawsuit. There is no further comment.’

Wife number one: Janet Leigh, who Curtis married in 1951

 

Wife number one: Janet Leigh, who Curtis married in 1951

Wife number two: Christine Kaufmann was mother of Alexandra and Allegra

 

Wife number two: Christine Kaufmann was mother of Alexandra and Allegra

And at the centre of the storm is Miss Vandenberg, who has just issued a brief statement saying: ‘Tony’s last will and testament and his passing wishes are family matters.’ 

It’s a complicated scenario because, whatever his family’s feelings towards Vandenberg and the inheritance they claim she has cheated them out of, Tony was certainly happy in his twilight years with his sixth wife. 

The pair met in 1993 in a restaurant, and were married five years later when he was 73 — and she just 30.

Although he said in interviews that he never ‘got over’ the death of his son Nicholas, and could never speak of the pain, Jill undoubtedly helped him through that dark period of his life.

And in 2008, just two years before he died after a heart attack, Tony spoke of how deeply content he was with her. ‘I don’t want anyone in my life except my wife Jill,’ he said. ‘And for the first time in my life it isn’t just lust.’ 

Coming from a man who once admitted that he struggled with his ‘addiction to women’, that was quite an accolade. 

Alcoholism and drug addiction were behind him by this point of his life. And after many years at the epicentre of the Hollywood social scene alongside characters including Marilyn Monroe, Frank Sinatra and Kirk Douglas, he had retired from acting and devoted himself full time to painting.

Wife number three: Leslie Allen bore Curtis two sons, one of whom died

 

Wife number three: Leslie Allen bore Curtis two sons, one of whom died

Wife number four: Actress Andrea Savio was Curtis' next wife

 

Wife number four: Actress Andrea Savio was Curtis' next wife

Wife number five: Lawyer Lisa Deutsch, who he married in 1993

 

Wife number five: Lawyer Lisa Deutsch, who he married in 1993

Wife number six: Jill Vandenberg was married to Curtis until his death

 

Wife number six: Jill Vandenberg was married to Curtis until his death

It was left to Jill to nurse him through various illnesses. He came close to death after a bout of pneumonia in 2006, which left him in a wheelchair. 

He also suffered from chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and had increasing trouble breathing. In July 2010, he was taken ill with an asthma attack at a book signing event.

Christine Kaufman, however, remains steadfast in her suspicion of Jill. She calls her a ‘fridge made of marzipan’ — a curious phrase intended to indicate that she is sweet on the outside, but cool on the inside.

‘I’m not picking on Jill because I admire her for staying with Tony,’ Christine admits.

‘He was a complicated man but she was very happy with him, and he with her.
‘But Tony promised to take care of the children, and we all want to know what happened to that promise.’

 

Ian McShane doesn't need make-up for Pirates of Caribbean

 

As the smooth-talking antiques dealer Lovejoy, Ian McShane was a housewives’ favourite.

But there is nothing smooth about the actor these days.

At 68, McShane’s beard is greying and his face shows the ravages of time. 

And with a pair of glasses strung around his neck as he strolled through the airport in Los Angeles, the former alcoholic’s look was more ageing uncle than TV heart throb.

 

Rough and gruff: Ian McShane arrives at LAX today looking rather dishevelled

 

Rough and gruff: Ian McShane arrives at LAX today looking rather dishevelled

The actor looked more than a little dishevelled as he walked through the terminal sporting wild, scraggly hair.

 

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Ian perhaps didn't get much sleep on his long-haul flight, and had deep dark circles under his eyes.

Thankfully, the actor left his pirate's hat and sword on set, and settled for jeans, a black hooded jumper and a jacket for his flight.

Method acting? The 68-year-old is to play Blackbeard in Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides
Method acting? The 68-year-old is to play Blackbeard in Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides

Method acting? The 68-year-old is to play Blackbeard in Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides

Production is almost complete on Pirates Of The Caribbean: On Stranger Tides, which  premieres in the UK on May 18.

The film follows Jack Sparrow (Johnny Depp) and Captain Barbossa (Geoffrey Rush) as they embark on a quest to find the elusive Fountain of Youth on behalf of the king, only to discover Blackbeard and his daughter Angelica (Penelope Cruz) are after it too.

Original stars Keira Knightley and Orlando Bloom will not join Depp and Rush in this film, but according to Depp, the forthcoming film aims to attract new fans to the franchise.

Ahoy there: The Lovejoy and Nine Lives star doesn't look too different as Blackbeard in the next Pirates installment

 

 Ahoy there: The Lovejoy and Nine Lives star doesn't look too different as Blackbeard in the next Pirates installment

'What's most interesting about Pirates 4 is you don't have to connect
the dots for these subplots and sub-characters,' he told USA Today.  'It
felt like a fresh, clean slate.'

McShane has just been announced as joining Ewan McGregor and Stanley Tucci for a retelling of Jack And The Beanstalk, called Jack The Giant Killer.

The Bryan Singer-directed film will also star Bill Nighy and Nicholas Hoult.

 

Sophie Anderton and Chantelle Houghton dazzle at the Rock Ball

 

Chantelle Houghton paraded around London last week in a dress made of lettuce leaves for a PETA campaign.

But there was no salad in sight last night when she attended a glitzy charity ball in London.

The Celebrity Big Brother star went head to head with Sophie Anderton for best dressed as the women both dazzled in silver gowns at the RPJ Crohn's Foundation Rock Ball, held at the Hurlingham Club.

 

Silver sirens: Sophie Anderton (left) and Chantelle Houghton both attended the RPJ Crohns Foundation Rock Ball tonight in gorgeous silver gowns
Silver sirens: Sophie Anderton (left) and Chantelle Houghton both attended the RPJ Crohns Foundation Rock Ball tonight in gorgeous silver gowns

Silver sirens: Sophie Anderton (left) and Chantelle Houghton both attended the RPJ Crohn's Foundation Rock Ball tonight in gorgeous silver gowns

Sophie, 33, was elegant in a satin gown by Australian designer Tarvydas with a slit up the leg a plunging neckline and carried a Shana of London clutch bag.

The model's simple dress and curled hair evoked an old Hollywood glamour style which was added to with £60,000 of jewellery by Susannah Lovis.

 

 

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Meanwhile, Chantelle, 27, went for an intricate peekaboo gown with sequins and a tulle fishtail skirt.

The silver sirens were joined by Olivia Inge and designer Melissa Odabash at the glitzy event, which was held to benefit The RPJ Crohn’s Foundation to raise funds in support of Crohn’s and Colitis UK.

Stylish trio: Sohpie posed with Melissa Odabash, Olivia Inge at the glitzy affair, held at the The Hurlingham Club in London

 

Stylish trio: Sohpie posed with Melissa Odabash, Olivia Inge  at the glitzy affair, held at the The Hurlingham Club in London

Model Olivia stood out in a bright red dress which showed off her cleavage and grey platform heels, while Melissa wore a very skimpy short white dress.

The RPJ Crohn's Foundation was founded by rocker Rick Parfitt Jnr, son of Staus Quo guitarist Rick Snr, who was diagnosed with the disease as a child.

Rick, 36, formed the foundation two years ago after suffering with the horrific illness for much of his life.

Host with the most: Top Gear's Richard Hammond is a big supporter of the foundation and played host for the evening

 

Host with the most: Top Gear's Richard Hammond, with wife Amanda,  is a big supporter of the foundation and played host for the evening

'I just want people to be able to understand what Crohn’s is so sufferers are not embarrassed to talk about it,' he told The Telegraph this month. If ultimately we can help find a vaccine or even a cure then that would be amazing.'

Top Gear's Richard Hammond is a big supporter of the charity and hosted tonight's event. Rick's friend Sophie organised a fashion show, while Status Quo performed.

Support: Status Quo performed at the event

 

Support: Status Quo performed at the event

Royal Wedding: Diana would have been 'very, very proud', says Harry

 

You would have thought Prince Harry would have other things on his mind as he prepared for his gruelling Arctic trek to the North Pole with a group of wounded servicemen.

But getting used to sub-zero temperatures hasn't stopped him from thinking about his big brother's wedding at the end of April.

The 26-year-old said today that his late mother would have been 'very, very proud' that Prince William was getting married.

Thumbs up: Prince Harry gives his future sister-in-law his warm-hearted approval

 

Thumbs up: Prince Harry gives his future sister-in-law his warm-hearted approval

Harry touchingly added that he was looking forward to welcoming Kate Middleton into the family, and that she would become the sister he never had.

He said: 'A younger brother or younger sister would have been nicer, but to have a big sister is obviously very, very nice.

 

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'I've got to know Kate pretty well, but now that she's becoming part
of the family, I'm really looking forward to getting her under my wing -
or she'll be taking me under her wing probably.

'She's a fantastic girl. She really is. My brother's very lucky, and she's very lucky to have my brother. I think the two of them are a perfect match.'

The People's Prince: Harry spent last night in a tent in minus 30C temperatures

 

The People's Prince: Harry spent last night in a tent in minus 30C temperatures

william and kate

 

William and Kate: Harry said that she would become the sister he never had

The Prince cheekily added: 'We all thought that it was never going to
happen for him. But it has happened, and I think everyone's going to be
very proud of him.'

The down-to-earth Prince, who spent last night in a tent in Norway in minus 30C temperatures, said his brother was right to wait to propose to his future bride - despite the pressure he was under.

'It's a big deal,' Harry said. 'It's not just a normal wedding.

'It's a really big decision for him to bring Kate into the family.

'It's obviously a huge amount of pressure for him, with the public perception and everything like that.'

Harry added: 'And I think he's done the right thing. He's waited, and he's done it when he feels right, and it's a huge step.'

The Walking With The Wounded charity expedition are due to fly out to their start point for the 200-mile challenge tomorrow.

The team aims to reach the North Pole in around a month's time.

Soldiering on: While preparing for his arctic trek, Harry described Kate and William as 'a perfect match'

 

Soldiering on: While preparing for his Arctic trek, Harry described Kate and William as 'a perfect match'

'Over the moon': Harry said his dad was also delighted about the wedding, and is helping Kate to plan the music for the service

 

'Over the moon': Harry said his dad was also delighted about the wedding, and is helping Kate to plan the music for the service

Harry said his late mother would have been 'very, very proud' that Prince William was getting married

 

Harry said his late mother would have been 'very, very proud' that Prince William was getting married

Their celebrity member will not make it all the way as he'll have to fly back in time for the wedding.

While Harry is in the Arctic, his dad, Prince Charles is in sunny Spain with Camilla.

The Prince and Duchess are staying with the Spanish royal family at the Pardo Palace during their three-day visit.

The royal families share a long-standing friendship.

Both are descended from Queen Victoria.

Charles
made his affection for his distant relatives clear as he warmly greeted
the Princess and Prince of Asturias, Letizia and Felipe yesterday.

He has also extended a warm welcome to his future daughter-in-law.

Harry
said his father was 'over the moon' his firstborn was soon to be
married, and he has been helping Miss Middleton with the preparations.

Another warm welcome: Charles is greeted by Princess Letizia of Spain alongside The Duchess of Cornwall and Prince Felipe

 

Another warm welcome: Charles is greeted by Princess Letizia of Spain alongside The Duchess of Cornwall and Prince Felipe

He said: 'He's had a lot to do with the wedding, which is really really nice.

'He's so unbelievably busy, yet he's managed to make time to help Kate out with the music and stuff like that - the processional music - which I think is fantastic.

'He's obsessed with his music, and Kate obviously is a girl and I
think girls are all obsessed with music on their wedding days - they
must have a book of it.

Spanish kiss: Charles again greeted Princess Letizia very warmly during a reception at the royal palace last night

 

Spanish kiss: Charles again showed his affection for his distant relatives during a reception at the royal palace last night

'So the two of them have been slaving away and getting everything right. It's fantastic, it really is.'

The Prince remained tight-lipped about his brother's stag weekend, and laughed off questions about it, saying he was concentrating on the Arctic challenge ahead.

His best man speech is also on the back-burner - but Harry has promised he will make sure it's not too risque for his gran.

 

What's yours is mine: Forget boyfriend jeans - now more fashion labels than ever are launching unisex clothing lines

 

We've all heard of boyfriend jeans but it seems the trend of women dressing like men - and vice-versa - is growing serious legs.

Calvin Klein and H&M are the latest in a long line of brands launching unisex clothing lines - proving his and hers collections may just be the next big trend. 

Selma Blair and Gossip Girl’s Penn Badgley are
among the celebrities modelling unisex designs from H&M's Fashion Against AIDS collection.

Star power: Selma Blair and Penn Badgley model unisex T-shirts from H&M's upcoming Fashion Against AIDS collection
Star power: Selma Blair and Penn Badgley model unisex T-shirts from H&M's upcoming Fashion Against AIDS collection

Boy meets girl: Selma Blair, pictured before her pregnancy, in a unisex trench and Penn Badgley in a hooded top and T-shirt from H&M's Fashion Against AIDS line

Keri Hilson is also among the High Street giant's ambassadors, posing in a white printed jumpsuit - though, we imagine, only seriously sartorially-inclined men are likely to be borrowing it from their girlfriends' wardrobes.

Hot on the trend is also CK One - a brand typically associated with its unisex fragrance that has
expanded into jeans, underwear and swimwear for both men and women.

 

 

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The line is described by the label as 'a sexy and modern range suited for the
urban adventurer' in
shapes that are 'comfortable and fluid'.

 

And last September, fashion designer Rachel Pally and boyfriend Kevin Circosta
launched the his and hers line Boyfriend/Girlfriend.

Keri Hilson

 

The unisex look? Keri Hilson also poses in H&M's campaign in a white printed jumpsuit - though only the most style-conscious of men are likely to wear it

The
couple themselves star in the spring 2011 campaign, wearing nearly identical outfits in each image.

 

Ms Pally told Lemondrop.com: 'I love my jersey clothes, and I
wear them most days. But I also love to wear Kevin's flannel shirts,
and I like a beat-up old T-shirt.

'To be able to make our own and make them fit the way I want them to, we were like, "Why don't we just do it ourselves?"'

Canadian designer Clayton Evans is still expanding his unisex clothing line, Complex Geometries, which he launched in 2006.

He has even collaborated with footwear brand LD Tuttle on a pair of Seventies-inspired boots with custom-carved
wooden
platforms.

Androgynous: ck one - a brand typically associated with its famous unisex fragrance - has expanded into unisex outerwear with its autumn 2011 collection

 

Androgynous: CK One - a brand typically associated with its unisex fragrance - has expanded into clothing that can also be worn by both men and women

Designer Tiffany Tuttle told WWD: 'He told me he wanted to
develop it in a large size for men, too.'

Of course there are brands like American Apparel which has carved a
long-established niche as a retailer of casual basics that can be worn
by both sexes.

Long-sleeved thermals, V-neck T-shirts, hooded sweatshirts and
accessories like the brand's circle scarf are popular with both men and women at its 200 stores across the globe.

For H&M, the unisex nature of its charity clothing line ties in with the initiative it supports.

In a press release launching the H&M Designers
Against AIDS collection, Ms Blair explained: 'I think it’s really fitting that this collection is
androgynous in style since the disease affects both men and women.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend: Fashion designer Rachel Pally and boyfriend Kevin Circosta model looks from their his and hers line - launched last year

 

Boyfriend/Girlfriend: Fashion designer Rachel Pally and boyfriend Kevin Circosta model looks from their his and hers line - launched last year

Basics: American Apparel has carved a niche for itself as a top-selling brand for unisex clothing - like this Baby Thermal Long Sleeve Henley
Basics: American Apparel has carved a niche for itself as a top-selling brand for unisex clothing - like this Baby Thermal Long Sleeve Henley

His and hers fashion: American Apparel has carved a long-established niche as a retailer of casual basics that can be worn by both sexes

'It’s a universal thing and we are all in this together. It’s a
disease that can be avoided and it’s especially tragic when our
ignorance keeps us from safety.'

But women should exercise some caution when it comes to shopping for unisex clothing.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend designer Miss Pally warned women not to
go overboard with the androgynous look, as there is a risk of a what she calls a 'sloppy' silhouette.

She explained: 'I
think there's a way to do it where you can look really hot in your
boyfriend's shirt, and I think there's a way you can look too
utilitarian.

'I think if you're going to dress like a boy, you still have
to dress like a girl.'

Offering a few tips, she added: 'That might mean wearing bold jewelry
or putting on a heel, or, if you're going to wear a flannel shirt and
jean shorts, you've got to have a purse.

'Just make sure to stay feminine
in your masculine style.'

 

Tom Conti is brazen about cheating on his wife, so why's he so prickly when asked about Princess Diana

 

Tom Conti will for ever be associated with his portrayal of Costas, the soulful-eyed love-’em-and-leave-’em Greek taverna owner who seduces bored Liverpudlian housewife Pauline Collins in the brilliant film Shirley Valentine.

She got an Oscar nomination and won the best actress Bafta . . . he got a reputation as a sex symbol, which sticks to him like a crystal to a chandelier.

 Off-screen, he’s seen quite a bit of love action, too. Soon after he married his actress wife, Kara, in a Catholic church in Glasgow 44 years ago, they thought ‘to hell with the rules’ and decided to have an open marriage. It is, he says, what works for both of them.

 ‘We agreed that if one of us strayed, that would not spoil what we had. It wasn’t a big deal. It was just a conversation. All couples should form their own code. There’s a lot of nonsense talked about sex really.

‘People get indoctrinated to think it’s something much bigger than it is. It’s fundamentally a physical act. And people like doing it. What’s important in life is being with someone who you can spend the day with.

‘People can spend the night with countless numbers of people. That’s easy. But who can you spend day after day, month after year after decade with?’

His smouldering sensuality shows no sign of abating, even as his 70th birthday looms — ‘although I’m fortyish in my head’,  he insists.

Millions of women must wonder what real life must be like for him and Kara. ‘I fell in love the moment I saw her,’ he says. ‘I just thought: “Oh my God, she’s stunning.” And we’ve been together ever since. There’s been the odd cross word, the occasional grumble, but nothing that’s lasted more than a few seconds, and I’ve never so much as raised my voice to her.’

 

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They met when he was 24 and starting out as an actor. A colleague brought her  to see him in a play in their native  Scotland. He thought she was the spitting image of Audrey Hepburn and was  immediately smitten.

So lust then, not love? ‘No, no, no,’ he says. ‘It was everything. The first thing was I was just taken with how beautiful she was. Then we all went for a coffee, and by the time our cups were empty I was completely in love with her. I couldn’t wait to see her again.

Unconventional: Soon after he married Kara, in a Catholic church in Glasgow 44 years ago, they thought 'to hell with the rules' and decided to have an open marriage. He says it works

 

Unconventional: Soon after he married Kara, in a Catholic church in Glasgow 44 years ago, they thought 'to hell with the rules' and decided to have an open marriage. He says it works

‘I said: “Shall we have supper?” She said: “Yes.” And that was that.’

Indeed. They now have a daughter, Nina 36, and two grandsons — Arthur, seven this month, and newly-born Drummond.

‘Kara and I have never had a screaming match ever in our lives,’ he says. ‘I’ve seen it in the street where two people will be yelling at each other, but I don’t get this thing. We’ve been short with each other, but it’s quickly over.’    

His daughter Nina — an actress and a ventriloquist — was the one who gave the game away about her parents’ open marriage in an interview, with a ‘string of affairs’ on both sides.

‘She was the one who went public with it,’ he says, roaring with laughter. ‘She felt awful afterwards, but I said: “Don’t fuss. It doesn’t matter.” The presumed condemnation of the people towards politicians and celebrities is actually misplaced. People don’t care. Why should they?

OUT TAKE

Before his acting success, Tom worked as a bus tour guide and played guitar in a restaurant

‘People can do what they like. As long as they don’t wreck things, then it’s up to them. People have got to be grown-up about their decisions and not read out of books how they should behave.

‘Analyse what you do yourself and do it or don’t do it. But don’t just go along with what’s peddled as moral values. Anyway, people don’t always tell the truth.

‘Supposing people come over to the house to watch something on television and something comes on that’s of a sexual nature. They’ll say: “Oh, that’s terrible.” But they don’t actually care. They just had to say they did.’

I tell him I think people do care — particularly if their partner sleeps with someone else. What about jealousy? ‘Oh it’s got to be freedom for both partners. You can’t have one party jealous and one party not. That’s no good. It’s got to be equal rights,’ he says airily.

This is the way they are around where he lives in trendy, liberal Hampstead in North London. It’s the rest of us who don’t get it. ‘Everybody’s different,’ he says. ‘Some women enjoy having sex without an emotional commitment. They do what they want to do. That’s OK. As long as you don’t bring the house tumbling down — or somebody else’s house tumbling down.’

Just friends: It's something he's never confirmed or denied, but his friendship with Diana is said to have cost him a knighthood

 

Just friends: It's something he's never confirmed or denied, but his friendship with Diana is said to have cost him a knighthood

Which brings us to the House of Windsor. Tom was a close friend of Diana, Princess of Wales, and when Paul Burrell, her former butler, wrote in his memoirs that she had been involved with an actor, who he did not name — among nine hitherto secret lovers — Tom came in for fevered speculation.

It’s something he’s never confirmed or denied, but their friendship
is said to have cost him a knighthood. ‘That’s nonsense,’ he says.
‘There’s a belief that there was some massive affair, but absolutely
not. We were friends. That was that.

‘I’ve been invited to lunch at the palace since, so I don’t think there is any ill-feeling.’

Given,
though, that Conti has described physical relationships as ‘an
extension of a handshake’ this doesn’t really clear anything up.

Was
it a platonic friendship? ‘That’s not anybody’s business to ask
questions like that’ — which I tell him I take to mean there was a bit
more to it than that. Otherwise why not just say? He gets a bit shirty.
‘I wouldn’t ask you about . . . ’ What he goes on to say is unprintable.

Since acclaimed performances in Reuben Reuben, The Glittering
Prizes and, of course, Shirley Valentine, he has rarely been out of
work.

His mop of greying thick hair and dreamy brown eyes exude
sexuality, but, as we sit in the minimalist white kitchen of his
Hampstead home, he confesses it’s his body that lets him down.
‘Constantly. One does get creaky,’ he says. ‘Although, I’m not bloody 70
yet. Everything that’s happened feels like yesterday. We did Glittering
Prizes in the Seventies but it seems like three years ago.’

He’s not required to be sexy in his latest role, as a pushy producer
in Smash! at London’s Menier Chocolate Factory. It’s a comedy by the
late Jack Rosenthal about his own disastrous experience trying to turn
his hit television play, Bar Mitzvah Boy, into a successful stage
musical.

Connections: Tom speaks to Tom Hanks at Princess Diana's funeral in 1997. He denies rumours that he and the late princess had an affair, claiming they were 'just friends'

 

Connections: Tom speaks to Tom Hanks, with Tom Cruise behind, at Princess Diana's funeral in 1997. He denies rumours that he and the late princess had an affair, claiming they were 'just friends'

Nina was just one-year-old and Kara was expecting their
second child when he went to Cambridge to film the television
mini-series The Glittering Prizes.

He says they’d decided soon after their marriage to wait six years before having a child ‘to see if we still liked each other’.

The
rulebook had, by this time, long since been chucked away. I wonder what
had persuaded a nice Catholic boy from Paisley to cock a snook at
convention quite in the way he has.

‘I think it was when we got
married,’ he says. ‘I said I wanted a wedding in a Catholic church as a
result of indoctrination. That’s the awful thing about religion, they
start filling a child’s mind with stuff like “you’re not married if you
don’t get married in a Catholic church” as soon as you arrive at school.

Happy family: Tom with Kara and daughter Nina. He says Nina is the centre of their world

 

Happy family: Tom with Kara and daughter Nina. He says Nina is the centre of their world

‘Kara should have been married, like the rest of her family, in the Glasgow University chapel, but I dragged her off to this bloody stupid church. It was the wrong thing to do. Because she’s a nice girl, she didn’t make a fuss. That made me feel even worse.

‘When I realised what I’d done, that put the kibosh on the whole thing’ — he means formal religion.

‘Why did I do it? I decided: “To hell with rules.” I lead a decent Christian life, but I’m not a Christian. I’m not an anything, but I have an extremely strong moral code.

‘People are denied doing it [we’re back to swinging] because society has developed along certain lines dictated by Christianity, so a lot of blokes who were probably sexually inadequate or didn’t fancy girls wrote down a whole lot of rules and these rules developed.

‘It’s a way of controlling women and everyone is now tainted with this screwy way of thinking.’

Except, of course, in this house. Tom, you see, likes to think of himself as a ‘new man’ decades before the phrase was coined. He says he’d have been delighted to be a ‘house daddy’ if Kara’s career had taken off rather than his, but things just didn’t work out like that. Which takes us back to Cambridge, The Glittering Prizes and Kara’s second pregnancy.

‘Before I started on the morning of the first read through of the
first episode, I got a message to call her,’ he says. ‘She said:
“There’s a problem. I have to go to hospital. I might lose the baby.”

‘I
was terrified. I went straight to the producer and told him. He said:
“We’d obviously prefer you were with us, but do what you need to do.”

‘Kara
told me there was nothing I could do. She said I should continue with
the filming but I’d have to have Nina. Fortunately, my mother-in-law
said she’d come down and help us, so between us we got through that
week. When we finished, I went to Kara. It was impossible. They said she
might have to lie on a bed for the rest of the pregnancy. What does
that do to the child you’ve got?

Close: Tom with Nina in 1996. He says he'd have been delighted to be a 'house daddy' if wife Kara's career had taken off rather than his

 

Close: Tom with Nina in 1996. He says he'd have been delighted to be a 'house daddy' if wife Kara's career had taken off rather than his

‘However, that decision was
taken out of our hands. The process started. These things are always
affecting, bloody hell yes. But worst to lose  a child.’

Indeed, it doesn’t bear thinking about. Nina is the centre of Tom and Kara’s world.

He
says that when she was born, in a forceps delivery, ‘I looked at this
little creature and it was really odd — as if somewhere in the universe a
big switch was thrown to love. From that moment, that child became the
centre of the universe. It was instant. After Kara lost the second baby,
we decided not to have another child because of the possibility of her
having to go to bed for nine months. What would that do to Nina to have
bedridden mummy at that age?

‘It would have been bad, so we decided not to.’

As HE reaches his seventh decade, I wonder if he’s proud of the unconventional life he’s led. ‘Because Nina is a well-balanced, emotionally stable human being making a good living with her talent, I am,’ he says.

‘What better production could you have? The most important thing is you make your children happy and they make their children happy. My grandson Arthur is a lovely, happy boy. The teacher at school said: “That boy is so loved it shines out of him.” If only we could give every child that. The thing is, you don’t shout at children. You’re all equal. You have to be equal in a house.’

He’s right, of course, but I can’t help feeling this life of equality is Hampstead speak for having your cake and eating it. Still, what do I know?

 

Kingston Rossdale poses next to giant electric guitar

 

His father Gavin Rossdale was the front man for one of the most popular bands in the 90's, Bush.

And it seem that little Kingston wants follow in his daddy's rock and roll footsteps.

The toddler was seen posing next to a giant electric guitar yesterday as he and his family went to  Boa Steakhouse in Los Angeles.

Like father, like son: Kington Rossdale was seen posing next to a giant electric guitar for his father Gavin Rossdale yesterday, as he and his family went to Boa Steakhouse in Los Angeles

Like father, like son: Kington Rossdale was seen posing next to a giant electric guitar for his father Gavin Rossdale yesterday, as he and his family went to Boa Steakhouse in Los Angeles  

The family, including Gavin, his wife Gwen Stefani and their other son two-year-Zuma were enjoying an early dinner, when 45-year-old Gavin decided to get snap happy and take some pictures of adorable Kingston. 

On their way to the popular eatery, father and son walked hand in hand.